Why is finding ‘the one’ important?
One of the most pivotal elements in our lives is who we choose to surround ourselves with. Friendship groups, family, and life partners significantly impact who we are and how we interact with the world. This is why the person we choose to spend the most time with, our spouse or life partner, is vital to our well-being. They greatly impact who we are and where we go in life.
We at New York City Matchmaker believe that who you decide to associate with romantically and eventually marry profoundly impacts every aspect of your life – from your physical and mental health, finances, and career to the overall quality of life you will enjoy. A deep-rooted, secure relationship provides the right environment where two individuals can invest in themselves and each other.
How can we make love happen for you?
If you agree that who you date and eventually marry profoundly impacts your life, then you must ask yourself, “Are you investing enough time, effort, and thought into it?”
Love Yourself, Invest in Yourself
Before you look at a single profile or go out on a first date, you need to understand yourself and your priorities and have a healthy relationship with yourself.
No other person can make you whole; you must be whole and know it when you enter the relationship, and they, in turn, must know the same thing about themselves.
We, as matchmakers, expect our clients to be ready to invest a significant amount of time in what we call Self Discovery. We will work together to undo what society and media have trained you to do, to stop looking for fulfillment outside of yourself, and commit to a lifetime of growth.
“Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship. It takes two wholes.”
Matchmaking Based on Values
We expect our clients to be ready to invest significant time in what we call Self Discovery and commit to a lifetime of growth.
Our matchmakers value integrity in ourselves and our clientele, you cannot be successful in anything when coming from a place of deceit.
Love cannot exist without a base of mutual respect. This respect penetrates our entire organization, clients, matches, and matchmakers alike.
When you operate from a place of kindness, there are no true losers in love. Our matchmakers value a kind, slow approach to matchmaking.
If these and similar values are the pillars on which love and relationships rest, how do you meet a person who believes in and values the same principles as you?
By dating slowly and mindfully.
If you accept or reject a person within a fraction of a second based on a photograph, you’re not even remotely interested in that person’s values. In addition, if you are sending and receiving cookie-cutter messages on online dating sites, how will you ever know if you came across a person who believes in the same things as you? Who has the same aspirations? Who is ready to be successful in love?
“Most people overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in ten years.”
If a lasting, secure relationship based on common core values is such a meaningful thing to have, then why are we not willing to work for it? Why do we expect to be in such a relationship in the next six months? Is such a deadline realistic or even healthy? We think the answer is a slow and involved process, and we are here to guide you through that.